Praising on the surface but belittling others (commonly known as ”yin and yang weirdness") is a way of communication that can easily hurt interpersonal relationships. But from the perspective of psychology and communication skills, I can analyze the common forms of this kind of behavior for you and provide a healthier alternative.： **Common hidden demeaning methods (please use with caution)：** 1. **Contrasting praise** "Your outfit today is really creative! I have never seen anyone dare to mix and match like this before. "(Suggesting that the collocation is weird) → Alternative: Directly ask "Is there any special inspiration for this set of collocation?" "Keep an open mind 2. **Dimension-reducing compliment** "In terms of your education, it's not easy to achieve this level. "(Implying insufficient ability) →Alternative plan: Specifically affirm that "this plan is very innovative in the handling of XX details" 3. **Outdated testimonials** "You are so well maintained, you can't tell it's the post-80s at all! "(Emphasize age) → Alternative: Sincere praise "You look great lately, is there any secret?" " 4. **Conditional affirmation** "Although this plan is not professional enough, I have worked hard as a newcomer. "(Negating the value of results) → Alternative solution: Constructive feedback "This direction has great potential, if it can strengthen the data support in the XX part, it will be more perfect" **Suggestions for healthier communication：** 1. **Use the "Sandwich Feedback Method"**: Affirmation + suggestion + encouragement "The use of color in this design is very outstanding (specific advantages). If the layout spacing is optimized, it will be easier to read (specific suggestions). I look forward to seeing the revised version! " 2. **Focus on specific behaviors**: Avoid personal attacks ✕"You always do things so sloppy" √"The data on the third page of this report needs to be checked again" 3. **Express your own feelings**: Communicate in the "I language" ✕"Your plan is simply not feasible" √"I am worried that this plan may encounter XX challenges in budget implementation" 4. **Make good use of question guidance**： "How do you plan to plan the landing steps of this idea? "(Guide the other party to think about feasibility) **Important reminder**: Long-term use of hidden threats can seriously damage the relationship of trust. Psychological studies have shown that although sincere communication may be embarrassing in the short term, it can better establish healthy interpersonal boundaries in the long run. If you encounter a situation that requires criticism and correction, it is recommended： 1. First confirm that your motivation is to help the other party grow up 2. Choose to communicate in private 3. Focus on specific behaviors that can be changed 4. Maintain an attitude of respect and equality Sincere praise should be: specific, timely, and without strings attached. When we let go of our judging mentality and look at others with a growth mindset, we can often build higher-quality social relationships.