In interpersonal conflicts, deliberate use of offensive language to "gain the upper hand" often exacerbates conflicts and even causes relationship breakdown. Truly effective communication should be based on mutual respect. If you want to improve the quality of communication, the following suggestions may be more valuable： **Constructive communication suggestions：** 1. **Use the "I" statement** "I feel neglected" is more acceptable than "You never think about me" 2. **Verify each other's feelings** "I understand you are in a hurry" can reduce defensive psychology 3. **Concretization issues** "The temporary change of mind made last week bothers me." It's more effective than turning over old debts. 4. **Provide solutions** "Maybe we can make a plan together? "Turn argument into cooperation 5. **Timely suspension** "Shall we all calm down for ten minutes and talk again? "Avoid emotional escalation **Psychological research shows that**： - The activity of the prefrontal cortex decreases by 26% in humans when they are emotionally excited (Neumann, 2003) - Using empathetic language can increase the success rate of conflict resolution by 40% (Gottman, 1998) -For every additional accusation in the dialogue, the other party's willingness to cooperate decreased by 15% (Hample, 2015) **Alternative vocabulary reference table**： | Offensive expression | Constructive substitution | |------------|------------| | "You always. . . " | "The situation this time. . . " | | "Too sensitive" / "It's important to you" | | "You must listen to me" | "My suggestion is. . . " | | "Really stupid" | "This angle is interesting" | | "It's all your fault" | "How can we improve" | What really prevails is not to overwhelm the other party, but to find a solution together. When you choose to use wisdom instead of attack to deal with conflicts, you have achieved a higher level of communication victory. Cultivating emotional management skills and non-violent communication skills will lead to better interpersonal relationships and problem-solving skills in the long run.