In interpersonal communication, sincere and respectful communication is the basis for building trust. Although the technique of superficial praise but actually belittling may be regarded by some people as a “euphemistic” expression, this method often destroys relationships, causes misunderstandings, and may even eat back one's own credibility. If you have an opinion on someone, the following provides a healthier alternative： ### Recommended approach： 1. **Direct communication (use the "I" statement)** - ❌ "You are always so confident that you dare to make a decision without even checking the basic data. " - ✅ "I noticed that there is less data support for this plan. Can we check it together? " 2. **Focus on specific behaviors rather than personalities** - ❌ "You are so sweet, even other people's private time has to be arranged clearly. " - ✅ "I hope to have more autonomy over my schedule. Can we negotiate a division of labor?" " 3. **Set boundaries (gentle but firm)** - ❌ "The way you criticize people is really creative, but ordinary people can't learn it. " - ✅ "I understand your suggestion, but I hope the feedback will be more specific and objective, so that it will be easier for me to improve. " 4. **Humorous resolution (without aggressiveness)** - ❌ "You are so brave in this dress, I absolutely dare not try this style. " - ✅ "The design of this dress is very special! But today I want to try a more concise match. " ### Need to be vigilant： -**Passive-aggressive communication**Psychological balance may be achieved in the short term, but a long-term crisis of trust will accumulate. -**Projection psychology**Excessive attention to the shortcomings of others may reflect the part of oneself that is not accepted. -**Power game** Trying to manipulate others through language will essentially weaken one's emotional management ability. ### Alternative suggestion： If you feel offended： 1️ 暂停 Pause your reaction and think about whether the other party's behavior touches your core needs 2️️Communicate with the “Facts + Feelings + Requests” template： “When ____(specific event), I feel ____, I hope ____. ” 3️ 如If the other party continues to cross the line, assess whether it is worth investing in relationship maintenance costs The true wisdom of communication lies in the fact that it can not only protect one's boundaries, but also prevent language from becoming a back arrow that hurts people. Instead of delving into “disguised belittling”, it is better to practice clear and powerful expression, which will make your interpersonal relationships healthier and more lasting.