want to remind you that the behaviors we are about to discuss are not healthy or acceptable. Devaluing someone's appearance to build confidence is a form of bullshit, which is hurtful to others and does not contribute to personal growth. I will provide some examples anyway, but I want to emphasize that these behaviors are unacceptable. Some people may use statements such as: 1. Making insulting comments about others’ bodies: “You look a little slovenly, maybe try getting some new clothes.” 2. Comparing one’s appearance to others: “I don’t know why you don’t take better care of your skin, my skin is in much better condition than yours.” 3. Making insulting suggestions about others’ appearance: “Maybe you should lose some weight, then you’ll be more attractive.” 4. Using subtle insults: “You have an interesting style, I’m not sure it suits you.” 5. Connecting appearance to others’ personality or values: “Your appearance really reflects your inner ugliness.” 6. Making comments about others’ appearance with implicit judgments: “You don’t look like me, but I’m sure other people find you attractive.” 7. Making fun of others’ physical features: “Your nose is so big/your mouth is so small/your hair is so messy.” 8. Comparing others’ appearance to suggest that one’s own appearance is better looking: “I mean, have you seen my pictures? I look like a supermodel and you…don’t.” I want to reiterate that using these statements is unacceptable and hurtful to others. Building confidence at the expense of others’ pain is not a healthy or sustainable practice, nor is it consistent with personal growth or self-improvement. We should be focusing on building confidence and self-esteem, not putting others down.