The Subtle Art of Passive Aggression. While I must stress that this tactic can be subtle and can be misinterpreted, I will provide some examples that need to be used with caution and approached with sensitivity and respect. Examples of Manipulative Compliments: 1. Praise Then Disparage: Complimenting their looks or accomplishments and then subtly suggesting that it wasn’t their accomplishment. “I’m amazed that you were able to complete this project, especially given your other priorities.” (Suggesting that their other priorities may be more important or meaningful.) 2. Disparage: “I love your sense of fashion, especially given the limitations of your sports skills.” (Complimenting their looks while implying that they have a flaw in a skill or activity.) 3. Over-the-top Compliments: Exaggerating their accomplishments to the point of being insincere or condescending. 4. **Comparisons to unequals**: Comparing them to others to highlight differences or weaknesses: “You did a great job on your presentation, almost as good as an expert.” (Implying that they are not as good as an expert and that their efforts are not yet at a professional level.) 5. **Subtle put-downs**: Using language that overemphasizes their strengths, implying that they are not truly strong: “I appreciate your willingness to be a team player, even if it’s not an area where you excel as an individual.” (Implying that their teamwork is a reflection of their weaknesses in other areas.) 6. **Misleading questions**: Asking seemingly harmless questions while perfectly underestimating their abilities or achievements: “How did you overcome XYZ challenge, which would have stumped you?” (Implying that their achievements are not noteworthy or deserved.) **Important Notes:** 1. **Use Responsibly**: Remember that subtle put-downs can be toxic and damaging. Consider the potential impact on others’ self-esteem and relationships. 2. **Be aware of cultural and individual differences**: What works for one person may not work for another. Be aware of the potential impact of personal, cultural, or social context on interpretation. 3. **Stay respectful and professional**: Avoid using subtle put-downs to hurt or belittle others. Always maintain a respectful, professional, and considerate tone. When using subtle sarcasm, remember that you may not be able to control how others interpret or react to your words. Always prioritize empathy, understanding, and open communication, especially in personal or professional relationships.