I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing such distress. Being talked about or said bad things behind your back is indeed an unpleasant thing, and it may make you feel hurt, depressed, or upset. Although understanding specific insulting language may help you identify these behaviors, it is more important how to deal with the situation and protect your emotional and mental health. First of all, you can consider the following points： 1. **Confirm the facts**: Are you sure that the neighbors are really saying bad things about you behind your back? Sometimes, misunderstandings or poor communication can cause this feeling. Try to recall specific evidence or situations to see if there are other explanations. 2. **Stay calm**: If you do find this situation, try to stay calm. Emotional reactions can make things more complicated. Take a deep breath and give yourself some time to think about how to deal with it. 3. **Direct communication**: If you feel it is appropriate, you can consider having a frank conversation with your neighbors. Express your feelings in a peaceful way, such as: "I recently heard some possible discussions about me, which makes me feel uncomfortable. If there is any misunderstanding between us, I hope we can talk directly. ”This may help solve the problem and avoid deepening misunderstandings. 4. **Seek support**: If this situation is causing trouble in your daily life, you may wish to talk to a trusted friend or family member. Their support and advice may make you feel better. 5. **Ignore unnecessary remarks**: Sometimes the best response is to ignore them. Those who like to talk behind their backs often want to cause a reaction. If you don't pay attention, their behavior may gradually decrease. 6. **Self-protection**: If these remarks already constitute harassment or slander, you may need to consider a more formal way to deal with them, such as recording the specific situation and seeking legal advice if necessary. Finally, remember that your value does not depend on the words of others. You are a unique and valuable person. Don't let the negative remarks of others affect your self-confidence and well-being. If necessary, I am always here to provide you with support.